You've finalized the divorce process and are ready to move on with your life. Unfortunately, if you have kids, the complications are far from over. No matter the nature of your parenting plan, you're likely to run into drama as new romances arise — and as a new mother or father figure enters your child's life. While you'd like to think the best of your spouse's parenting judgment, there's never any guarantee that your ex's new boyfriend or girlfriend is worthy of spending time with your kids.
Whether you love life in Minnesota or are desperate to escape the chill, you might be ready for a new start — and a new state — following your divorce. Unfortunately, moving after divorce isn't as simple as packing up and heading out — especially if you hope to leave the state. Keep the following considerations in mind as you prepare for your big move:
Divorce is hard on any child, but it poses the most significant problems for those with special needs. Often vulnerable to the smallest disruptions, children may suffer huge setbacks if their family splits up. This shouldn't be reason enough to remain in a bad marriage; the chaos of a dysfunctional relationship is arguably far worse for children than the brief difficulties of divorce. Still, it's essential that you proceed with caution — one wrong move could spell years of suffering for your special needs child. Keep the following in mind as you pursue the least disruptive divorce possible:
The stress and chaos of military life can throw even the strongest relationships for a loop. Interestingly, however, military couples aren't as destined for divorce as outsiders seem to think. Read on for fascinating statistics about the prevalence of military divorce — and how dramatically it can vary from one situation to the next:
Could an at-home DNA test be all it takes to connect you to your heritage? Or could it prompt unforeseen consequences — perhaps shaking the foundation on which your family is built? Both outcomes are possible. In Part 1 of our series on direct-to-consumer genetic testing, we explored a few of the unexpected implications these tests can have for couples and families. Now, we share additional stories of difficult circumstances brought about by DNA test results:
At one time, DNA testing kits seemed like little more than a science fiction concept. Today, however, these tests are not just available — they're easily accessible. Fueled, in part, by BOGO deals and other discounts, these tests are blowing up. As of late 2017, over 12 million people admitted to using these direct-to-consumer tests. Ancestry.com announced that over 1.5 million customers sought tests during the 2017 Black Friday weekend alone.
When picturing the financial implications of divorce, most spouses worry about their houses or alimony. Often, however, other issues warrant more attention. For some couples, retirement can be the most impacted aspect of divorce — and also, the most difficult to navigate. This is especially true in Minnesota, where courts make it clear that, when one spouse earns retirement benefits, the other spouse enjoys a "just and equitable" share, merely due to their status as married.
As you prepare to inform your children of your impending divorce, expect questions — most of which will be difficult to answer. How you respond to these queries may, in part, determine how well your children handle your divorce. A few top questions are highlighted below:
For families, the ideal divorce outcome includes happy children who maintain strong relationships with both parents. In turn, parents will hopefully enjoy an amicable relationship. All too often, however, divorce devolves into a power struggle, as evidenced by the increasingly prevalent issue of parental alienation.
Divorce is never easy, but mental health issues can add an additional layer of complication. Minnesota is a no-fault dissolution state, so illness (whether physical or mental in nature) cannot serve as grounds for divorce. Still, mental illness can play a significant role in several aspects of divorce — most notably, maintenance and child custody.